Saturday, April 13, 2013

SOME THINGS I WISH I'D SAID


Since I was in high school, maybe before, I have been collecting little bits of paper in a large envelope. I wrote on the outside of the envelope “Things I Wish I’d Said”. The following quotes, bits of advice, etc. are from that collection. Many I don’t know who said them or I didn’t write down who said them. I have attempted to give credit to the ones I know. Otherwise, I have placed the initials UK (unknown) at the end.

I can just hear all of you now.

“Oh, no!”
“ I’ll just save this to read some other time… or not.
“ Haven’t we heard enough of that already?”
“ Good grief, what more could she possibly have to say?”
“ She is the expert on everything…according to her.”

No whining.

I said…it is optional.

But, here it is.

Practice the Golden Rule in all things. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

“The Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, pleasure without conscience, knowledge without character, commerce without morality, science without humanity, worship without sacrifice, and politics without principle.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

“When you’re somewhere you should be there. It’s what you do while you’re there that matters. A place should be better for you having been there.” ~UK

Learn to say “no”. It is a complete sentence.

Give children what they need: food, clothes, shelter and love.

“Thank God every morning when you get up that you have something to do which must be done, whether you like it or not. Being forced to work, and forced to do your best, will breed in you temperance, self-control, diligence, strength, contentment, and a hundred other virtues which the idle never know.” ~UK

“Worry is just like a rocking horse, it keeps you going, but it gets you nowhere.” ~UK

“You have the ability to have an incredible life. It comes down to the power of choice. Unveil your purpose. Take time to be with yourself, go internal, listen to your body and to your own thoughts. Start living a life that feels right.” ~Christian Nardi

“Tell me thy company, and I’ll tell thee what thou art.” ~Cervantes

If you don’t know something…ask someone…or “google” it. I must have called my mother, Marge and Poopsie hundreds of times with questions about how to cook something. I didn’t have access to Google or online recipes. Ericka carries that torch. She used to call me to ask questions about cooking but she doesn’t much anymore. She listened and practiced.

“Don’t regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. Enjoy today. Everyday we all get older. It will get worse…if you’re lucky.” ~UK

“Give them wisdom and devotion in the ordering of their common life that each may be to the other a strength in need, a counselor in perplexity, a comfort in sorrow, and a companion in joy.” Amen.  ~The Book of Common Prayer.

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others becomes immortal.” ~UK

“Nobody ever said it was going to be easy.” ~Gracie Brettholle and a lot of other people.

Make photocopies of everything in your wallet. You’ll save time and stress should you lose it. (Don’t keep the copy in your wallet)

“You cannot be so disobedient that God’s mercy will not be able to follow you, so give Him a chance. ‘Sin bravely,’ as Luther said, and see how much of God’s mercy you can invoke.” Joseph Campbell, through Sarah.

Abraham Lincoln was once being criticized for his attitude towards his enemies. A colleague asked,
“Why do you try to make friends of them? You should try to destroy them.”
“Am I not destroying my enemies,” the president asked gently, “when I make them my friends?”
Round Valley Paper

The Criteria of Emotional Maturity from W.C.Menninger, MD
The ability to deal constructively with reality
The capacity to adapt to change
A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties
The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving
The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness
The capacity to sublimate, to direct one’s instinctive hostile energy into creative and constructive outlets
The capacity to love

“Fear is the thief of dreams”. Were HD, Rica and I afraid to fly over the Grand Canyon in a helicopter? Probably. But it was an unforgettable experience.

“Some people learn from their experiences. Some never recover from them.” ~UK

“What are the four signs of aging? They are Wisdom, Confidence, Character, and Strength. Look for them not with dismay, but with hope.” ~Valerie Monroe

“In relationships: Tell each other the truth…no matter how painful or disgustingly honest. Then you will feel safe with each other. When you don’t feel safe, you do things to hurt each other or to find safety.” ~UK

“The true success of our lives will not be judged by those who admire us for our accomplishments, but by those who attribute their wholeness to our loving them, by those who have seen their true beauty and worth in our eyes.” ~UK

“Her coping mechanism of denial isn’t working anymore.” ~ Dr.John Ragle

“What you are is God’s gift to you. What you do with yourself is your gift to God.”
Old Danish proverb

“The shortest distance between a problem and a solution is the distance between your knees and the floor.” ~UK

“Anyone too busy to say ‘thank you’ will get fewer and fewer chances to say it.”
~ Harvey Mackay

“ Simplicity is the key note of all true elegance.” ~Coco Chanel

“Man of good humor, honesty, humility and gentleness.”
Written in the newspaper about my Grandfather Hunt when he died. WOW!

“A writer is a failed conversationalist.” ~Irish expression

“ If you think education is expensive, try ignorance.” ~Harvey Mackay

“Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.” (My mother, Foxie, probably said this)

Top 5 SuperStar Carbs:
Green Stuff: Broccoli, lettuce, spinach, kale, asparagus, green beans, Brussel sprouts, cucumber, celery.
Berries
Sweet Potatoes: Not yams
Oatmeal
Ezekiel bread

Do not do what you would undo if caught.

Hug someone.

“Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.” Danny Kaye

The Koran wisely advises, “You will be called upon to account for all the permitted pleasures in life you did not enjoy while on earth.”

“Keep yourself as healthy as possible.” ~ME

“Life gives you chances and choices. With some of the chances, you have to make choices. With some of the choices, you have to take chances.” ~ UK

“Smile ‘til your face hurts, dance like no one is watching, work like you don’t need the money, and love like you’re never been hurt.”~ UK

“It is better to be honestly arrogant than falsely humble.” ~UK

“Remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience.” ~UK

Floss.

“Don’t put a question mark where God has put a period.” ~UK

“As we go through life we do not get to choose our losses…we only get to choose how we will deal with them.” ~Barbara Bush

“Few people know how to take a walk. The qualifications are…endurance, plain clothes, old shoes, an eye for nature, good humor, vast curiosity, good speech, good silence, and nothing too much.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“SUCCESS: To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"I have recently been examining all the known superstitions of the world, and I do not find in our particular superstition (Christianity) one redeeming feature. They are all alike founded upon fables and mythologies. The Christian God is a being of terrific character -- cruel, vindictive, capricious, and unjust." ~Thomas Jefferson

”Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something.” ~UK

”Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.” ~UK


”If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.” ~UK

”Men have become the tools of their tools.” (Consider this in light of the computer age.) ~UK

”That man is the richest whose pleasures are the cheapest.”~UK

”Any fool can make a rule, and any fool will mind it.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

“ I only went out for a walk and finally concluded to stay out ‘til sundown, for going out, I found, was really going in.”  ~ John Muir

May the peace of the wilderness be with you.

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